How to talk about the elephant

A pink elephant, with the tagline: "Let's talk about the elephant."

– Before you start, make sure everyone is well-rested and has a comfy place to sit.

– Give everyone a chance to describe what the elephant looks like to them, without interruption or criticism from others.

– Some people may feel that they are being personally attacked, and they may become angry or defensive. Explain to these people that the conversation is not really about them. It’s about the elephant.

– Accept that some people genuinely don’t see the elephant. Elephant-blindness is a common condition that affects millions of people from all walks of life. Explain that just because some people don’t see the elephant, that doesn’t mean the elephant isn’t there.

– There may turn out to be more than one elephant, so be prepared.

Image credit: Pink elephant on the rampage, Public Domain